Mummas – it’s time to drop the superhero cape! I want to get one thing straight. Mine is hung up and collecting dust as we speak – if I ever had one. Gone are the days that I rock my own schedule, racing around juggling multiple balls at a time, whipping up a last minute anything goes meal and charging out the door for an impromptu catch-up with mates.
Don’t get me wrong, outwardly, I’m sure it looks like I have it all together and for the most of it I do but certainly not because I’m flying a superhero cape. I do have two little gems up my sleeve that I should probably disclose at this point though.
First off, I am very clear about how I prioritise my time.
I know for my own health and wellbeing that I need to exercise daily. I get my energy from people so value time with like-minded souls. I’m conscious of how fast time flies and want to be as present and engaged with G as possible. I put these things over and above a clean home, tidy car, endless meal prep or an organised garage.
That’s not to say that these things aren’t important to me (as they are pretty much needed to function effectively in everyday life) but they just don’t feature on my radar to the same extent! Instead, I have someone come in and clean my house every fortnight, the state of my car is a stock standard joke amongst Active Souls, meals are more about it being a source of fuel than a gourmet delicacy and my side of the garage is a state of organised chaos most of the time much to my partners disgust.
Which brings me to my second confession. I have a massive support network that I couldn’t do without.
I am very fortunate to have a partner in crime that picks up the slack on the home front, almost to the point I would say he is one step ahead of me in most directions and I have a Mum around the corner I can lean on when needed with very little notice. I could take a moment and list of all they do for me but rather than this be about how amazing there are (which they are), I more importantly wanted to point out that I don’t do this alone.
I hope I’m not the only one that lives with these two little gems tucked safely away in exchange for the mighty superhero cape but actually don’t think that these things tend to come up in conversations that often. Whether it is because we feel the need to do it all ourselves, want people to think we are nailing it on all fronts or just don’t want the comparisons or judgements that go with it – I’m not altogether sure.
But how about, from here on in we start some honest conversations about Mum life. I’ll kick this off. Being a Mum is the single hardest thing I have ever done. A relentless 24/7 responsibility that requires utmost patience, compassion and unconditional love, which I would do a hundred times over without hesitation. But my goodness, I’m certainly not going to pretend it’s easy.
On the flip side, if being a Super Mum is about making the most of your time, leaning in and getting support when needed, juggling work / home and family, involving kids and giving them responsibilities and being slightly hard on myself in order to reflect and hopefully do better the next day… then maybe I’m heading in the right direction.
So for all those super Mums out there doing exactly this.. you are all absolute legends. I see the highs and lows that go along with the ride – so be kind to yourself, make use of those little gems I mentioned if they’re available to you but don’t for one minute feel the need to wear your underpants on the outside and fly that superhero cape any longer.